Sunday, October 16, 2016

Preschool and Lots of Updates!

Apologies right from the get-go of how little I have posted.  The lack of posts have been from the amount of successes we have been busy celebrating with Cohen.   It's been a year since we have moved to California and the amount of leaps and bounds this little man has made is truly incredible and inspiring.



A year ago he had just a few words, but mostly in sign.  Now he is saying lots of two-word phrases, often verbally but sometimes including signs.  He can identify most letters and sounds, and even plays Scrabble Junior!  He knows most of his colors, is starting to "mumble" count, and is saying more spontaneous words than ever before.  



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A year ago he was crawling on the floor eager to walk, but lacked the core stability to walk.  Now he is practically running, still with the occasional face plants, but seeing him upright is amazing. He has mastered hitting the ball off the tee and has found a love for baseball.  It's great exercise to improve the rotation in his trunk and his tone.  

A year ago he was on 4 feeds "tube meals"/day that completely supplied his nutritional intake.  He would "taste" foods, but besides a few sips of milk or water/day we were thankful for his feeding tube because it has kept Cohen alive. Today, he has finally overcome his fear to swallow foods!  He still is on 4 feeds/day but we are starting the weaning process!!  For those of you that aren't familiar with feeding tubes, there's a slow process of teaching and learning to eat full caloric intake before the feeding tube can be removed.  A little starvation and an additional medicine that helps stimulate an appetite, Periactin, help him learn that food is good and helps you feel full.  This is a feeling Cohen has never really experienced before and it's amazing watching him open his mouth for food that he once saw as the enemy.  He enjoys eating things like crackers, chocolate milk, french fries, milkshakes, cubes of cheese and avocado, and many others.  On days when he "shows up to eat" he is able to eat 100-150calories/980 calories he needs to grow.  This seems minimal, but coming from the days of sucking on foods and spitting out, this is a huge feat!  He is still far from where he needs to be before he can be tube-free, but it's the little progress we see each day that is uplifting.  Although he has his good days and bad days, it's amazing to think that 3 years ago he was on a feeding pump 15 hours/day.  Just today he ate an entire Yoplait Gogurt!  It's the little things.  This success is by far my most happy moment because for once I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.  


Cohen turns 3 in just a little over a month and the transition from his home therapy program to a preschool program is happening!  Cohen will likely be attending two different preschools.  The first is a parent participation preschool in our neighborhood that for the most part has typical and healthy children that attend along with a great ratio of parent volunteers.  He is completely immersed in the program and has no restrictions on what he can or cannot do.  He is able to see and hear great models of language that should only help to improve his speech.  His favorite thing to do at school is play t-ball, of course.  







He is learning to stay seated during circle time but that's still a bit of a struggle, unless of course it's sharing time.  He recently had the chance to share something from home and we decided to take "Emily" a toy train.  We practiced all morning on our drive into school as I signed green and train in my rear view mirror and he would practice saying "een" for green and "oooh oooh" for choo choo.  When it was his turn to share, I was convinced he would either refuse to go up to the chair or need me to be there for support. But he didn't need me.  I saw something in him that told me, he's going to be ok.  He may be behind, but he follows his own beat and his own path.  He sat up proudly in the chair and the teacher asked him what he brought for sharing.  "ahhhhh," he responded. This is a standard answer of his at first, which usually prompts us to redirect him so he can try to say the proper word.  He looked at me and I did just what I had done in the car on the way in.  By giving him the green and train sign he was able to say "een oooh oohhh."  The teacher then asked what his train's name was and he again gazed in my direction.  "Emily," I said and he responded to the teacher, "Em-eee."  Tears flooded my eyes and it took all of me to push them back in.  My biggest fear for Cohen at this point in his life is how he would do being integrated into a classroom with typical children and how he would be successful when language is such a barrier for him right now.  He showed me that I don't need to worry anymore about him.  He will be fine.  It's not going to be easy, it will be an uphill battle at times.  But it will be a journey that he will take at his pace and his stride.

Saturday, November 28, 2015

WE have survived two years!!

This post means more to me than I thought it would.  Our little man is two and honestly there were moments in the past where I thought he wouldn't live to see this day!  At his lowest point on the ventilator in the PICU, I remember the nurse pushing the BLUE BUTTON, the look of worry on her face was not settling to me and I thought at that moment he would be gone forever.  Or the 5 different times the nurses took him back and he went under anesthesia for various procedures and surgeries.   Looking back on all of the ups and downs, it is not hard to have a huge smile, a fluttery heart, and be speechless.  I have no words to describe the joy that this little boy has brought into our lives.  He is a warrior, a champion, a superhero, a fighter, a comedian, a smarty pants, a music lover, determined mini-man that is always pushing himself to the next level and will continue to always need to do that throughout his life.

We are often asked when will he "grow out of this."  The awareness just isn't always there and the misconception that this is a thing that can be fixed and fixed easily sometimes is rather upsetting.  Cohen is meeting milestone after milestone but at a slower pace, his own pace.  Progress is power and he has a lot of it!  But he will continue to struggle throughout his life, whether it be medically, socially, or educationally.  Call me a Debbie Downer or a pessimist, but I've become a realist in all of this.  I can't brush off the struggles I know that may be in his future.  I can just plan and hope that his past was his worst and that his future can only be brighter.  There isn't a cure for 22q and probably never will be.  It is a chromosomal disorder that affects all areas of the body at all different intensities. But with that being said, there are always accomplishments to celebrate!!

It has been over 5 months since my last post and Cohen has made leaps and bounds!  His language has EXPLODED and now has more signs than I can count!  He is extremely verbal and can shake his head yes and no for what he wants, is requesting things to play with by either signing or nodding, and even tells me when he doesn't like a song on the radio by saying "MORE" meaning "NEXT SONG MOM!" He has also begun to show more interest in eating and is requesting particular foods at the refrigerator. This is huge progress for a child that doesn't even know hunger.  It will be the slowest process to get him rid of his feeding tube, but it is something that without it, he wouldn't be here.  As scared as I was of him having his feeding tube, it has made him the stronger and fearless child he is today.  Without it, he wouldn't be progressing and reaching all of these milestones.

And this just happened two days ago, right before his birthday!  It is only a matter of time before he will be running around and we will be sprinting trying to catch up with him.

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The other day a good friend asked me, "So how are YOU?  How have YOU been handling the past two years?"  I don't think I've actually ever thought about that nor had the time to do so. I've been treading water trying to stay afloat.  Whether it be trying to give my undivided attention to my eldest child and make sure that she feels special even with everything going on, to the intense care that Cohen needs, I have yet to reflect on myself and what I have been through.  These past two years have been intense in so many ways.  Cohen has overcome major setbacks, I have started a new career in search of something flexible to be able to stay at home with him, and we have recently moved back to California to be closer to family support and nice weather :)  We have had a whirlwind 3 months getting situated here, fighting for therapy in a new state, and making sure that both Cohen and Isla are comfortable.  But even these huge transitions and changes are nothing compared to where we have come from and what we have gone through.   Yes, I know I wasn't the one hooked up to all of the wires and monitors, or the one that has been vomiting every day for the past year and a half, but I have been there through it all!  I, as the mother, will never forget the things my little baby boy went through and am thankful he will never remember those times.

The 2's are going to be wonderful for Cohen!  I'm ready to see what he will accomplish over the next year and know that it won't be disappointing.  His first year was full of beeps, cords, surgeries, and scars.  Now his world is full of wonder, excitement, and curiosity and I hope it can stay that way!

Monday, June 8, 2015

Inchstones....our milestones!

The weather is warming up, we are starting to get healthier and free of colds, and our little man is hitting inch-stone after inch-stone.

Inch-stones to us are what milestones are to healthy children.  Small little inches forward and often a few inches backward, Cohen takes to get to the larger milestones that are "age appropriate."   Cohen beats to his own drum and crosses events/successes off his list at his own pace, as typical 22q children do.  This past month, he has had some amazing accomplishments including finally being able to apply the sign language we have been working so hard on over the last few months.  He is so proud now every time he makes a sign and is happy to be able to communicate with us. 
 Cohen currently can sign these words:
-head/hat
-ball
-milk
-dog
-sky
-car
-bubbles
-more
-stop
-daddy

He can also understand these signs:
-music
-up
-down
-kitty
-water
-cracker
-all done
-bath
-mommy
-Isla/sister

Here is Cohen signing head/hat while watching a baby signing time video.

And he has officially said his first word: MILK....Mommy is a close second but still not consistent quite yet!
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He is able to follow simple commands like: give mommy the ball, or put the book on top!  He has mastered holding books in the proper orientation and is taking interest now in puzzles.  All of these behaviors typical for a child much younger, though it doesn't matter to Cohen or to us because that's all he knows and he smiles through it all!


Just today for the first time, Cohen took his first crawling scoots across our floor trying to reach a favorite toy, Elmo!  For once we are crying tears of joy and not tears of worry or anguish!  He still hasn't quite figured out his motor plan but will and once that happens, we are all in for trouble....especially his older sister Isla.  For the past 18 months she has been a sibling to a "baby" who has kept to himself.  Now that he is mobile, I'm anticipating the sibling rivalry to finally commence!
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While waiting and anticipating all of these inch-stones, we have also become very involved in the 22Q community.  In May I was the 22q at the Zoo coordinator for our local zoo.  This is an international event that helps spread awareness for 22Q and also allows families to get together and share their experiences.  We had about 10 other families at our local zoo.  It was amazing to see that Cohen still remains one of the youngest at these outings and is is very rare to be diagnosed in utero.  


Just last week I was asked by the Dempster Family Foundation to be interviewed to take part in their PSA that they are filming as a means to show the faces of 22q and the story behind the families that are effected.  It was amazing to take part in this interview, share Cohen's journey, and my insight on how lucky I feel we were to get diagnosed so early on.  It is NOT a RARE DISORDER, but a RARELY DIAGNOSED ONE!  

Just last weekend, we attended the 22Q Mystery Bus Tour. 

 This is another event the Dempster Family Foundation has created in trying raise awareness, while on the GO!  They travel all over the country with this bus so that the everyday traffic/citizens can see the bright colors and hopefully research more about what 22Q is.  It also gives us families another opportunity to network.  It seems like we often meet up at different events, but to me it seems there is never enough time to learn more about another family's experiences or their child's struggles.  I could talk to these parents forever, comparing notes on doctors and asking them questions about their experiences if their child is older.  I want to pick their brain.  I often find myself scoping out the older children, not in a judging way, but looking to understand what I have in our future and what I could expect with Cohen when he's 7, 10, or 19 years old.  It's always a double-edge sword when we attend these events.  Though it is helpful to network with other 22q families and be able to see the huge successes of children older than Cohen, it's sometimes also overwhelming to see what hurtles we may face as he grows.  

As a way to continue my mission in spreading awareness for my son and the rest of the 22q community, I am doing so through my new business.  Back in August of 2014 after being home with Cohen for 5 months, I started my own business as a merchandiser for a jewelry company called Chloe & Isabel.  It was the perfect opportunity for me for a variety of reasons. I'm able to stay home with the kids and care for Cohen while having an online store as well as host in-home pop ups during the weekends and evenings.  It has allowed me to feel human again, meet some amazing women, and engage with new people to share Cohen's story with.  My goal is that each time someone purchases from my online boutique I'm able to share with them about 22q and hopefully when they are complimented on their new purchase, they can pay spread awareness as well.  
You can visit my online boutique here: https://www.chloeandisabel.com/boutique/lindseygarcia


Ryan continues to work partnering with the Dempster Family Foundation to help spread awareness for his project: State of Kind.  He currently has a few different states in the works, so stay tuned!  You can stay up-to-date on his mission here:  http://www.366randomacts.org  Also with the current NHL Finals, he has organized a fundraising event that will allow friends/family to donate based on the Blackhawks success!  Learn how you can participate here: https://www.facebook.com/366RandomActsOfKindness/photos/a.382006208482814.111623.354778471205588/1142804445736316/?type=1&theater

Saturday, April 11, 2015

I'm NOT a doctor!!

I'm a mother, a nurse, an advocate, a caregiver, a doctor, and oh did I say doctor?

One of the most challenging obstacles Ryan and I have had to face and accept is that 22Q and it's many quirks is still a mystery to most. When finding out Cohen had 22Q in utero, we immediately met with a geneticist who explained to us more about his genetic disorder and "typical" things we could expect to face along the way: needing open heart surgery, feeding tube support, learning delays, speech delays, and the list goes on and on.  All of these things although overwhelming at the time to both of us, to me seemed very clear cut!

He can't eat? We will have to have a feeding tube put in for a bit.
He is delayed in his speech?  We will have speech therapists work with him and get him the support he needs.
His heart has a murmur? We can endure open heart surgery!

It never occurred to either of us that this would be a life filled with trial and error, guess and check, positive and negative results, and us advocating for our son about even the smallest things.  Having family members in the medical field: both grandpa's were veterinarians, I knew that their job was tough trying to treat sick animals.  I know that medicine is about the process of elimination (and no offense to any of our friends/family members who are in the medical field), but the process of elimination sometimes SUCKS!  And sometimes that process is a very slow process, that can take days, weeks, months, and even years.   Months and years taken away that you can never get back again.  This admission is already going on over a week trying to get Cohen back to where he was before he got sick and brought him in last Sunday. I've already seen two of our neighbors be checked in and out in one night, and we are still here!  It has been a guess and check system that has created daily vomits, weight loss, and sleepless days/nights trying to figure out the best way to treat him.

It's never comforting when the doctors are asking us, "What do you suggest we do? What plans do you have?"   This isn't the first time we've heard these remarks.  It's dejavu all over again and it has been for the past 5 days!  Since when was my name changed to Dr. Garcia?  Yes, I have become quite knowledgeable in the hospital setting and have accrued many new medical terms, but I'm not in the hospital trying to solve why Cohen is sick.  I know that part of those questions stems from trying to work with families to help care for their sick children, but honestly it's disheartening having that weight on your shoulders.  If we suggest something and it goes wrong, then we are stuck living with that decision.  If we decide something and it works, then great and suddenly we have more medical expertise than the doc.  It's a daily battle we fight to determine if what choices/changes we make will affect Cohen and his overall well-being.

I remember going to the doctor when I was little with my mom and just being in the office for a few minutes after he saw me, I felt better and my mom was relieved.  I never truly have gotten that feeling in my stomach yet since Cohen has been born.  Last year in the hospital many "band-aids" were put on him to mask the problems that would arise but we never fully got answers. Now after 6 days in the hospital Cohen has finally stopped vomiting (crossing my fingers as I write this post and a feed is going) and is starting to tolerate his feeds again.  WHY?  Because of ME (and Ryan :), oh and our little guardian angel Kimberly P :)

Kimberly is a mom that I have mentioned before in my posts long ago who I reached out to when I first learned of Cohen's diagnosis.  Her son also has 22q and he has lived a similar path to some extent as Cohen, but also has had some other struggles along the way.  Having a sick and complicated child, she is a wealth of knowledge to us and has been each time we are hospitalized.  She always offers suggestions and things to ask the doctors at rounds.  She is always positive through everything her and her little guy have been through and it's inspiring.  I remember her exact words to me when we had our fist conversation on the phone last July.  "YOU have to be Cohen's ADVOCATE!"  I didn't quite get what those words meant at the time, but each time being in the hospital has taught me the power of those words.  An advocate is someone who is brave, confident, relentless, a problem solver, and headstrong.  I cried to her on the phone about how I felt lost again in this whole process, how it didn't seem like the doctors knew what was wrong with him.  Cohen was again in the hospital and the one that was "puzzling" the doctors.  There was never an easy fix for him, never a one night stay in the hospital.

On Friday morning before rounds when the attending doctor admitted she was "Puzzled" by him, I suggested a few things:

1. They could stick to our current feeding schedule and not push him so much, like we had suggested a few days ago at rounds.
2. They could get the GI team (other docs that we haven't seen before) to weigh in on what they thought since our current GI is not an on-call one and hasn't been in to see him.
3. We could consider increasing his calories and that would help decrease his quantity.

The attending GI docs stopped by on Friday morning and suggested a new plan that we be aggressive with Cohen's current motility medicine and try to knock this out by increasing the dosage from 0.25mls 3x/day to 0.6mls 4x/day! Thank god they didn't think he would have to return to the GJ tube since they felt his motility was completely out of whack due to being sick 3 times in the last 2 months.  After those suggestions were made, it only took about one day and we have noticed a huge improvement in how much Cohen was vomiting.  We went from having to clean him and the bed up 5-10x/day to NOT AT ALL!  Not sure when we will get home (I don't even ask anymore), but as long as he continues down this path, I think we are headed in the right direction.

It's exhausting being an advocate for your child and going to bed every night researching and thinking about what the plan should be in the morning.  Making a list of questions to ask during rounds and things to try is a ritual to us now.  But no matter how exhausted we are, there is nothing that would make us stop advocating for him.  He relies on us to do it!





Wednesday, April 8, 2015

One day short of a year!

It's April 8, 2015 and this post has been planned in my mind for over a few months now.  April 7 is a day of great importance in the Garcia household these days, but as I'll explain, I wasn't able to write that post.

We have been counting down the days on our calendar to a very important holiday: 1 year out of the hospital!  April 7, 2014 we were handed over our little warrior from the hands of the doctors and nurses one final time in hopes that this time he would remain healthy and at home. And he did.  He has grown, gained weight, matured, and created so many memories in the walls of our home that we were blessed to have experienced.  Isla has loved waking up every day to the squeal of her little brother and also being able to boss him around from time to time.  Even through the past two months with two very intense upper respiratory illnesses, he has been a champ hanging in there and remaining out of the hospital.

We had a great Easter and spent it with my in-laws in the burbs.  Cohen was in great spirits and dressed up for the occasion!




After returning back home, we started his first evening feed at 6pm and he went to sleep.  Ryan and I were relaxing on the couch watching tv, and digesting our Easter meal.  We ironically were talking about how in just 2 more days it would be 1 year that we had taken Cohen home from the hospital!  Little did we know, that anniversary would be cut short by 2 days.

By 7 pm he woke up vomiting.....this is a norm for him lately and we didn't think too much of it.  Usually if he's not tolerating a feed, he'll throw up and usually be ok, but this time was different.  Every 15 minutes he was waking up and vomiting.  GRAPHIC WARNING:  The vomiting got to the point that he started having green neon bile.  This was definitely a sign something was up.  I kept waiting to see if it would stop so I could try to give him some pedialyte but he was a mess.  We called his PED and "you have to take him in" rang through the phone into my ear.  NO, this couldn't be happening.  He couldn't just last two more days?  He has been able to stay home before with a 106 fever, but because he's vomiting we have to?  She said it would probably just be an overnight thing...but she apparently didn't recall the 17 weeks we spent in the hospital last year.  The 17 weeks we were ripped apart as a family.  I knew in my heart we had to go in too, but I also knew this probably wouldn't be a quick fix.  Cohen was vomiting every 5 minutes at this point, I didn't feel safe driving him there by myself worrying if he would need me to help him.  So we were able to get our amazing neighbor Kristen :) to come down and help us.  She stayed at our place while Ryan drove me and dropped me off at the ER.

We arrived at the ER by 10:30pm.  It was the barrage of questions again this time strictly about his gi issues and history. When was his gtube placed? Why was it changed to a gj tube?  When did he start vomiting? How many times did it come out green? For once we were focusing on vomit and not a respiratory rate!  I was a little relieved at that :)  He was vomiting non-stop and every time I put down the "puke bowl" for more than a  few minutes, it would start up again.  They took an x-ray of his belly to rule out any obstruction since he has been vomiting green.   They figured it may be a stomach flu and would put in an IV to give him anti-nausea meds and also start fluids to hopefully get him feeling better.  It was terrible watching them try 3 different times to get an IV in him. Being a baby before, really has it's benefits as I can recall watching Cohen smile when he used to get IV's put in.  Being as dehydrated as he was, his veins had shriveled up and it made his very small veins that much smaller.  Finally they were able to get one in his foot and once they did he seemed to start feeling much better.  He was so exhausted from all of the work he had done all evening and it being 12am, he passed out while sitting up in the hospital bed.  We were finally admitted to the hospital on our favorite floor: 21 at 3:00am.  Both of us exhausted, the nurses quickly took his vitals and we both went to sleep!


Being in the hospital this time around has its trade offs.  Last time Cohen was in a hospital he was only 5 months old and now being a 16 month old it becomes rather challenging to entertain a little toddler in a hospital bed.  He is limited at what he can do physically since he has an IV near his left ankle.  He cannot put weight on it, so he pretty much moves from lying down, to pulling up to a sit over and over again.  We have brought in some toys for him to play with and books to read but passing 3-4 hours of wakefulness in a hospital setting is much slower than doing it at home!  He is also unable to leave his room because he is "isolation" due to the fact that he is vomiting.  The perks of being a returning patient is everyone knows his name, our faces, and our story!  We had visitors the first day we were here and every day since.  It's those little 5 min windows of time where chatting with an old nurse or therapist helps make you feel like you are at home and not stuck in a 5x5 stark white room.  Everyone has been commenting on "how big" he is since some of them haven't seen him since he was 5 months old.  It's reassuring that even though he still struggles to gain weight and develop more slowly, he is making progress in the long run.

I stayed at the hospital through Monday afternoon when I switched out with Ryan to stay with Isla.  Now that he's older it is not even an option about leaving him at the hospital.  Watching him sit up in the hospital bed and looking at the door sends a pain right through my heart making it impossible to leave the little guy, even to run down the hall for a refill of my water mug.  On Tuesday afternoon I was hit violently with a stomach bug.....trying to take care of Isla while sitting in the fetal position and running to/from the bathroom was draining!  Ryan stayed at the hospital so I wouldn't infect Cohen.  In the middle of the night Isla woke up with the same thing and by 5 am Ryan was already rushing home in a cab about to hurl.  Luckily, my MIL Penny was able to take the day off work to stay in the hospital with our little guy. We all are nursing back to recovery as we speak.

So the focus of this stay is simply to hydrate him and get him to tolerate his feeds.  We have taken a HUGE step back as far as his feeds go.  At home he was able to tolerate 5 feeds/day each one 165mls over about an hour and a half.  Now we are trying to get him to tolerate 8 feeds/day each one 90mls  over an hour and a half.  His GI doctor thinks that with the combination of being sick two different times already and then getting knocked down with this stomach flu, it has really taken a toll on his motility.  His body is going to need some time to recuperate, much more time than the ordinary person and we need to take time with trying to gradually get him back to where he was before.
PAUSE: PUKE BREAK :(

I just had to check on the little guy who has yet puked again.  Not sure how much more of this he can take and I can take getting covered in vomit.  The doctors want him to meet his caloric intake but at this point I'm asking to have a new plan.  I understand trying to make sure he doesn't lose too much weight, but at the same time watching him vomit every feed doesn't seem to be worth it in the long run.  I'm off to bed with heavy eyes and hopeful that tomorrow brings less vomit and more smiles from my little guy!


Tuesday, February 10, 2015

Tears

As I write this I have tears dropping on my laptop!  It's one of those nights. I'm sure many mommies can attest to having "a moment" when you really are feeling down on yourself for one reason or another.  This night and day in particular has been getting to me. It's probably because I have been nursing my family back to health all weekend long and still Cohen remains sick.  I'm frustrated, exhausted, and upset.  Since last Thursday I've been taking care of everyone in this house except for myself.  Ryan, Isla, and Cohen all had pretty bad colds, but Cohen really took a step back during this one.

Tonight I was planning to relax and hop on a national call for my jewelry company( C &I) with a glass of red wine in hand while Ryan was at the gym.  Instead I spent over an hour trying to comfort Cohen and remind Isla to go back to sleep.  Cohen has remained sick even when both Ryan and Isla have overcame their illness this past weekend.  He is sensitive and fragile again and it reminds me all too much of the days we spent back in the hospital.  I want to take away his pain, cough for him, and take on his fevers but I can't.  It's so frustrating to watch your little guy go through so much day in and out while you remain healthy and feeling great.  I know I need to be strong for him but tonight as I sat rocking him in the rocking chair, my mind started racing.

"What if this is going to be our lives forever?"
"How can I divide my time and energy equally between both kids?"
"How can we get through this?"
"Why does he have to struggle so much and how is that justified?"

It's been over 14 months and though we have made huge gains and he's soared leaps and bounds in some areas, sometimes I find myself sulking over accomplishments he still hasn't made yet.  Seeing babies his age talking, walking and eating, remind me that he just isn't there yet.  Worry sets in and I find myself in a panic as to when these things will happen for him.  He is coughing in my arms and ends up vomiting all of his food onto his sleep sack.  This has been our routine for the past week.  He has not been tolerating his food, coughs, has a runny nose, and at one point even had a 106.3 fever (yes I couldn't believe it myself and expected a hospital trip, but doc insisted we could get over this at home and we did!)  Being as sensitive as he is, a normal cold is not your typical series of events.  He can't really take any medicine via mouth yet, is uninterested in eating/drinking anything, and needs to sleep with oxygen still so it's that much harder to keep his nose clear to breath while congested.  His motility seems to be jeopardized when he gets sick as well, which highly effects how much food he can tolerate through his feeding tube.  A small little cold that Isla had is a much bigger concern for Cohen.

This is more of a venting post, but I just had to get it out there.  This is for any momma who has had her moments, whether it was a toddler's tantrum, or not having time to shower or eat lunch.  Everyone is entitled to having one of these moments every once in awhile and that was mine!

Good Night :)

Sunday, February 1, 2015

Three Miracles in One Week!

As I cuddle up on my warm couch and watch the Super Bowl tonight not venturing out in this crazy blizzard we are having in Chicago, I think about three miracles that have happened this weekend. The first miracle happened almost a week ago.  After Cohen was cleared passing the gastric emptying study we scheduled him to get his feeding tube switched from a gj to just a g tube.  The last time he had a g tube was exactly a year ago when he went into the hospital via ambulance for turning blue on us in the house after choking.  The doctors decided it would be safest for Cohen to get the gj tube at that point and it was placed February 27, 2014.  Although it has been a means of nutrition for Cohen, transitioning him to just a g tube will help him transition to eat more food by mouth and in time not need his feeding tube. But this slow process does take time.  He had it placed on Monday, no surgery, just an office visit and he did very well!  We have been working at increasing his tolerance to a larger quantity to hopefully move him from 5 feeds/day to just 4 mimicking a typical feeding schedule for a child his age.  It's quite uplifting to think that just 2 months ago Cohen was still eating through the night and some day (almost on the pump for about 15 hours/day).  Now he is only attached for about 5 and it amazing to be able to sleep from 11pm-6am with uninterrupted sleep.


The second miracle happened over the weekend. For once as a family we had another dose of "normalcy."  When I say normalcy I don't mean it in a negative way to people or families that don't get to experience "normalcy."  I think of normalcy as something that people take for granted every day.  Things that you do on a daily basis that are easy, effortless, and you wouldn't even think twice about doing an hour later.  Normalcy is feeling part of the community you live in, the network of friends/family you have, and being an active participant.  Though I love that Cohen is unique, eccentric, and special in so many ways and it has taught Ryan, Isla, and I to be thankful for the little things, transitioning from a normal way to our new normal has been rough on me.  Being the perfectionist I am, it was so challenging this past year to take the stares from others, accept the fact that Cohen is going to do things at his own pace and his own way, and realize that some friendships might never understand the challenges our family faced last year.  It took me this long to accept our new normal, as I've talked about in previous blogs.  Cohen has made this new normal for our entire family and it has all effected us in ways we could've never imagined.

This weekend though, we left our new normal home.  For the first time since Cohen has been born, we went out and did things as a family two nights in a row!  Both of them were rather spontaneous and something we really couldn't have done even a few months ago.  On Friday night, we went to a local playroom in Chicago, Peekaboo Playroom, for a Rapunzel sighting and it was so relieving to be able to just up and leave without tons of equipment.  From 4-7pm we spent time as a family together outside of our home...away from monitors, oxygen, feeding pumps, beeping, alarms, medicines, etc.  Cohen had his first experience at a playroom and Isla was enamored by watching Rapunzel sing.  We made it back in time to start Cohen's feed and put them both to bed.

The next night, we again ventured out to a local neighborhood bar that was hosting the neighborhood association annual party.  There were many families there and we had the chance to finally meet neighbors.  It was yet again another occasion where Cohen was able to go completely cordless, free of any baggage, and it felt amazing!  Sometimes its rather surreal for me to walk into a place with other families and parents of very healthy children.  It's challenging to not feel any slight jealousy of their kids walking, talking, and eating normally.  It's difficult to have to answer questions about his age, when he appears smaller than he is and then feel the need to have to explain the situation.  Cohen is our miracle baby and has accomplished and endured more things in his short life than many people can say they have done.  Sometimes it's a reminder though when we do take him out in public and it's a realization that even though to us he is doing so well, seems so chunky, and healthy that he is still so behind.  You see another baby the same age as Cohen, who is standing and almost walking and it is a reminder that his development is a struggle for him and continues to be.


But with that being said, our third and most exciting miracle happened tonight.  We were supposed to attend a friend's annual Super Bowl party and Isla had even prepared some snacks from her new Disney Princess Cookbook (thanks Aunt Michelle): Tiger Fudge and Princess Popcorn.  After getting all bundled up, looking outside, trying to get a cab, we finally had to change our plans and stay at home.  We all changed into our Bears gear and got comfy in the living room waiting for pizza delivery.  Cohen was up playing and babbling a little as he sometimes does.  But within minutes and out of nowhere, his babbling advanced to actual repetitive  ba-ba-ba-ma-ba-ba-ma-ma!!!!  Up until this point, he would do raspberries and an occasional "b" or "d" or "g" but nothing like this.
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Tears of joy stained my husband's cheeks (definitely the more sensitive one of us both) and I stood there with my jaw open in shock.  How did this just happen?  This moment we had been longing for so much had just happened and all during our Plan B Super Bowl Blizzard Party?  We ran to get our phones and video tape this monumental milestone for Cohen.  Something I don't think I realized until being the mommy of a special needs child is the milestones that they accomplish are far more impressive and overwhelming than of a typical healthy child.  Not saying that we also didn't cry tears of joy for our first whenever she did anything, and even today when she learns a new fancy word or when she signs her name.  But there is something to be said about the waiting and longing, the hoping and praying, the doubting and pleading that one day he too will go through those same life moments that she did.  His road and journey have been tough and challenging and although sometimes I doubted in my mind that some of these things would even happen (probably to save myself the disappointment) it's easy to say that I will no longer doubt him.  I will stand by his side as his proud mommy helping him, coaching him, and loving him every bit of the way!